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The Thirteen Type

Based on 6 Months of Psycological and Behavioral Research.

The Disappointed Dreamer. As children, these types probably spent a lot

of time alone. To entertain themselves they developed a powerful fantasy

life, fed by books and films and other kinds of popular culture. And as they

get older, it becomes increasingly difficult to reconcile their fantasy life

with reality, and so they are often disappointed by what they get. This is

particularly true in relationships. They have been dreaming of romantic heroes,

of danger and excitement, but what they have is lovers with human

frailties, the petty weaknesses of everyday life. As the years pass, they may

force themselves to compromise, because otherwise they would have to

spend their lives alone; but beneath the surface they are bitter and still hungering

for something grand and romantic.

You can recognize this type by the books they read and films they go to,

the way their ears prick up when told of the real-life adventures some people

manage to live out. In their clothes and home furnishings, a taste for

exuberant romance or drama will peek through. They are often trapped in

drab relationships, and little comments here and there will reveal their disappointment and inner tension.

These types make for excellent and satisfying victims. First, they usually

have a great deal of pent-up passion and energy, which you can release and

focus on yourself. They also have great imaginations and will respond to

anything vaguely mysterious or romantic that you offer them. All you need

do is disguise some of your less than exalted qualities and give them a part

of their dream. This could be the chance to live out their adventures or be

courted by a chivalrous soul. If you give them a part of what they want

they will imagine the rest. At all cost, do not let reality break the illusion

you are creating. One moment of pettiness and they will be gone, more

bitterly disappointed than ever.

The New Prude. A prude is someone who is excessively concerned with appearances, with what society considers appropriate and acceptable behavior. 

Prudes rigorously stay within the boundaries of correctness because more than anything they fear society's judgment. 

Seen in this light, prudery is just as prevalent as it always was.

The New Prude is excessively concerned with standards of goodness,

fairness, political sensitivity, tastefulness, etc. What marks the New Prude,

though, as well as the old one, is that deep down they are actually excited

and intrigued by guilty, transgressive pleasures. Frightened by this attraction,

they run in the opposite direction and become the most correct of all.

They tend to wear drab colors; they certainly never take fashion risks. They

can be very judgmental and critical of people who do take risks and are less

correct. They are also addicted to routine, which gives them a way to tamp

down their inner turmoil.

New Prudes are secretly oppressed by their correctness and long to

transgress.  The New Prude will often be most tempted by someone with a dangerous or naughty side. If you desire a New Prude, do not be taken in by their judgments of you or their criticisms. That is only a sign of how deeply you fascinate them; you are on their mind. You can often draw a New Prude into

a seduction, in fact, by giving them the chance to criticize you or even try

to reform you. Take nothing of what they say to heart, of course, but now

you have the perfect excuse to spend time with them—and New Prudes

can be seduced simply through being in contact with you. These types actually

make excellent and rewarding victims. Once you open them up and

get them to let go of their correctness, they are flooded with feelings and

energies. They may even overwhelm you. Perhaps they are in a relationship

with someone as drab as they themselves seem to be—do not be put off.

They are simply asleep, waiting to be awakened.

The Crushed Star. We all want attention, we all want to shine, but with

most of us these desires are fleeting and easily quieted. The problem with

Crushed Stars is that at one point in their lives they did find themselves the

center of attention—perhaps they were beautiful, charming and effervescent,

perhaps they were athletes, or had some other talent—but those days

are gone. They may seem to have accepted this, but the memory of having

once shone is hard to get over. In general, the appearance of wanting attention,

of trying to stand out, is not seen too kindly in polite society or in the

workplace. So to get along, Crushed Stars learn to tamp down their desires;

but failing to get the attention they feel they deserve, they also become resentful.

You can recognize Crushed Stars by certain unguarded moments:

they suddenly receive some attention in a social setting, and it makes them

glow; they mention their glory days, and there is a little glint in the eye; a

little wine in the system, and they become effervescent.

Seducing this type is simple: just make them the center of attention.

When you are with them, act as if they were stars and you were basking in

their glow. Get them to talk, particularly about themselves. In social situations, mute your own colors and let them look funny and radiant by comparison.

The reward of seducing Crushed Stars is that you stir up powerful emotions. They will feel intensely grateful to you for letting them shine. To whatever extent they had felt crushed and bottled up, the easing of that pain releases intensity and passion, all directed at you. 

The Conqueror. These types have an unusual amount of energy, which

they find difficult to control. They are always on the prowl for people to

conquer, obstacles to surmount. You will not always recognize Conquerors

by their exterior—they can seem a little shy in social situations and can

have a degree of reserve. Look not at their words or appearance but at their

actions, in work and in relationships. They love power, and by hook or by

crook they get it.

Conquerors tend to be emotional, but their emotion only comes out in

outbursts, when pushed. In matters of romance, the worst thing you can do

with them is lie down and make yourself easy prey; they may take advantage

of your weakness, but they will quickly discard you and leave you the

worse for wear. You want to give Conquerors a chance to be aggressive, to

overcome some resistance or obstacle, before letting them think they have

overwhelmed you. You want to give them a good chase. Being a little difficult

or moody, using coquetry, will often do the trick. Do not be intimidated

by their aggressiveness and energy—that is precisely what you can

turn to your advantage. To break them in, keep them charging back and

forth like a bull. Eventually they will grow weak and dependent, as

Napoleon became the slave of Josephine.

The Drama Queen. There are people who cannot do without some constant

drama in their lives—it is their way of deflecting boredom. The greatest

mistake you can make in seducing these Drama Queens is to come

offering stability and security. That will only make them run for the hills.

Most often, Drama Queens (and there are plenty of men in this category)

enjoy playing the victim. They want something to complain about, they

want pain. Pain is a source of pleasure for them. With this type, you have to

be willing and able to give them the mental rough treatment they desire.

That is the only way to seduce them in a deep manner. The moment you

turn too nice, they will find some reason to quarrel or get rid of you.

You will recognize Drama Queens by the number of people who have

hurt them, the tragedies and traumas that have befallen them. At the extreme,

they can be hopelessly selfish and anti-seductive, but most of them

are relatively harmless and will make fine victims if you can live with the

sturm und drang. If for some reason you want something long term with

this type, you will constantly have to inject drama into your relationship.

For some this can be an exciting challenge and a source for constantly renewing

the relationship. Generally, however, you should see an involvement

with a Drama Queen as something fleeting and a way to bring a little

drama into your own life.

The Professor. These types cannot get out of the trap of analyzing and

criticizing everything that crosses their path. Their minds are overdeveloped

and overstimulated. Even when they talk about love, it is with

great thought and analysis. Having developed their minds at the expense of

their bodies, many of them feel physically inferior and compensate by lording

their mental superiority over others. Their conversation is often wry or

ironic—you never quite know what they are saying, but you sense them

looking down on you. They would like to escape their mental prisons, they

would like pure physicality, without any analysis, but they cannot get there

on their own. Professor types sometimes engage in relationships with other

professor types, or with people they can treat as inferiors. But deep down

they long to be overwhelmed by someone with physical presence.

Professors can make excellent victims, for underneath their intellectual

strength lie gnawing insecurities. Make them feel like Don Juans,

to even the slightest degree, and they are your slaves. Many of them have a

masochistic streak that will come out once you stir their dormant senses.

You are offering an escape from the mind, so make it as complete as possible:

if you have intellectual tendencies yourself, hide them. They will only

stir your target's competitive juices and get their minds turning. Let your

Professors keep their sense of mental superiority; let them judge you. You

will know what they will try to hide: that you are the one in control, for

you are giving them what no one else can give them—physical stimulation.

The Beauty. From early on in life, the Beauty is gazed at by others. Their

desire to look at her is the source of her power, but also the source of much

unhappiness: she constantly worries that her powers are waning, that she

is no longer attracting attention. If she is honest with herself, she also

senses that being worshiped only for one's appearance is monotonous and

unsatisfying—and lonely. Many men are intimidated by beauty and prefer

to worship it from afar; others are drawn in, but not for the purpose of

conversation. The Beauty suffers from isolation.

Because she has so many lacks, the Beauty is relatively easy to seduce,

and if done right, you will have won not only a much prized catch but

someone who will grow dependent on what you provide. Most important

in this seduction is to validate those parts of the Beauty that no one else

appreciates—her intelligence (generally higher than people imagine), her

skills, her character. Of course you must worship her body—you cannot

stir up any insecurities in the one area in which she knows her strength, and

the strength on which she most depends—but you also must worship her

mind and soul. Intellectual stimulation will work well on the Beauty, distracting

her from her doubts and insecurities, and making it seem that you

value that side of her personality.

Because the Beauty is always being looked at, she tends to be passive.

Beneath her passivity, though, there often lies frustration: the Beauty would

love to be more active and to actually do some chasing of her own. A little

coquettishness can work well here: at some point in all your worshiping,

you might go a little cold, inviting her to come after you. Train her to be

more active and you will have an excellent victim. The only downside is

that her many insecurities require constant attention and care.

The Sensualist. What marks these types is not their love of pleasure

but their overactive senses. Sometimes they show this quality in their

appearance—their interest in fashion, color, style. But sometimes it is

more subtle: because they are so sensitive, they are often quite shy, and

they will shrink from standing out or being flamboyant. You will recognize

them by how responsive they are to their environment, how they

cannot stand a room without sunlight, are depressed by certain colors, or

excited by certain smells. They happen to live in a culture that deemphasizes

sensual experience (except perhaps for the sense of sight). And so

what the Sensualist lacks is precisely enough sensual experiences to appreciate

and relish.

The key to seducing them is to aim for their senses, to take them to

beautiful places, pay attention to detail, envelop them in spectacle, and of

course use plenty of physical lures. Sensualists, like animals, can be baited

with colors and smells. Appeal to as many senses as possible, keeping your

targets distracted and weak. Seductions of Sensualists are often easy and

quick, and you can use the same tactics again and again to keep them interested,

although it is wise to vary your sensual appeals somewhat, in kind if

not in quality. That is how Cleopatra worked on Mark Antony, an inveterate

Sensualist. These types make superb victims because they are relatively

docile if you give them what they want.

The Roué. These types have lived the good life and experienced many

pleasures. They probably have, or once had, a good deal of money to finance

their hedonistic lives. On the outside they tend to seem cynical and

jaded, but their worldliness often hides a sentimentality that they have

struggled to repress. Roués are consummate seducers, but there is one type

that can easily seduce them—the young and the innocent. As they get

older, they hanker after their lost youth; missing their long-lost innocence,

they begin to covet it in others.

If you should want to seduce them, you will probably have to be somewhat

young and to have retained at least the appearance of innocence. It is

easy to play this up—make a show of how little experience you have in the

world, how you still see things as a child. It is also good to seem to resist

their advances: Roués will think it lively and exciting to chase you. You can

even seem to dislike or distrust them—that will really spur them on. By being

the one who resists, you control the dynamic. And since you have the

youth that they are missing, you can maintain the upper hand and make

them fall deeply in love. They will often be susceptible to such a fall, because

they have tamped down their own romantic tendencies for so long

that when it bursts forth, they lose control. Never give in too early, and

never let your guard down—such types can be dangerous.

You must avoid:

The Moralizer. The character of the Moralizer, however, is rigid. These are people

who follow fixed ideas and try to make you bend to their standards. They

want to change you, to make you a better person, so they endlessly criticize

and judge—that is their pleasure in life. In truth, their moral ideas stem

from their own unhappiness, and mask their desire to dominate those

around them. Their inability to adapt and to enjoy makes them easy to recognize;

their mental rigidity may also be accompanied by a physical stiffness.

It is hard not to take their criticisms personally so it is better to avoid

their presence and their poisoned comments.

The Reactor. Reactors are far too sensitive, not to you but to their own

egos. They comb your every word and action for signs of a slight to their

vanity. If you strategically back off, as you sometimes must in seduction,

they will brood and lash out at you. They are prone to whining and complaining,

two very anti-seductive traits. Test them by telling a gentle joke or

story at their expense: we should all be able to laugh at ourselves a little, but

the Reactor cannot. You can read the resentment in their eyes. Erase any

reactive qualities in your own character—they unconsciously repel people.

The Vulgarian. Vulgarians are inattentive to the details that are so important

in seduction. You can see this in their personal appearance—their clothes are tasteless by any standard—and in their actions: they do not

know that it is sometimes better to control oneself and refuse to give in to

one's impulses. Vulgarians will blab, saying anything in public. They have

no sense of timing and are rarely in harmony with your tastes. Indiscretion

is a sure sign of the Vulgarian (talking to others of your affair, for example);

it may seem impulsive, but its real source is their radical selfishness, their inability

to see themselves as others see them. More than just avoiding Vulgarians,

you must make yourself their opposite—tact, style, and attention to

detail are all basic requirements of a seducer.

The Windbag. The most effective seductions are driven by looks, indirect

actions, physical lures. Words have a place, but too much talk will generally

break the spell, heightening surface differences and weighing things down.

People who talk a lot most often talk about themselves. They have never

acquired that inner voice that wonders, Am I boring you? To be a Windbag

is to have a deep-rooted selfishness. Never interrupt or argue with these

types—that only fuels their windbaggery. At all costs learn to control your

own tongue.

The Fearful Attitude

In the beginning, fear was a basic, simple emotion for the human animal. We confronted

something overwhelming—the imminent threat of death in the form of wars, plagues, and

natural disasters—and we felt fear. As for any animal, this emotion had a protective function—it allowed us to take notice of a danger and retreat in time. For us humans, it served an additional, positive purpose—we could remember the source of the threat and protect ourselves better the next time. Civilization depended on this ability to foresee and forestall dangers from the environment. Out of fear, we also developed religion and various belief systems to comfort us. Fear is the oldest and strongest emotion known to man, something deeply inscribed in our nervous system and subconscious.

Over time, however, something strange began to happen. The actual terrors that we

faced began to lessen in intensity as we gained increasing control over our environment.

But instead of our fears lessening as well, they began to multiply in number. We started

to worry about our status in society—whether people liked us, or how we fit into the group. We became anxious for our livelihoods, our future, our personal health, and for woman? Instead of a simple, intense fear of something powerful and real, we developed a kind of generalized anxiety. It was as if the thousands of years of feeling fear in the face of nature could not go away—we had to find something at which to direct our anxiety, no matter how small or improbable.

In the evolution of fear, a decisive moment occurred in the nineteenth century when

people in advertising and journalism discovered that if they framed their stories and

appeals with fear, they could capture our attention. It is an emotion we find hard to

resist or control, and so they constantly shifted our focus to new possible sources of

anxiety: the latest health scare, the new crime wave, a social faux pas we might be

committing, and endless hazards in the environment of which we were not aware. With

the increasing sophistication of the media and the visceral quality of the imagery, they

have been able to give us the feeling that we are fragile creatures in an environment full

of danger—even though we live in a world infinitely safer and more predictable than

anything our ancestors knew. With their help, our anxieties have only increased.

Fear is not designed for such a purpose. Its function is to stimulate powerful physical responses,

allowing an animal to retreat in time. After the event, it is supposed to go away. An animal that

cannot not let go of its fears once the threat is gone will find it hard to eat and sleep. We are the animal that cannot get rid of its fears and when so many of them lay inside of us, these fears tend to color how we view the world. We shift from feeling fear because of some threat, to having a fearful attitude towards life itself. We come to see almost every event in terms of risk. We exaggerate the dangers and our vulnerability. We instantly focus on the adversity that is always possible. We are generally unaware of this phenomenon because we accept it as normal. In times of prosperity, we have the luxury of fretting over things. But in times of trouble, this fearful attitude becomes particularly pernicious. Such moments are when we need to solve problems, deal with reality, and move forward, but fear is a call to retreat and retrench.

This is precisely what Franklin Delano Roosevelt confronted when he took office in

1933. The Great Depression that had begun with the stock market crash of 1929 was

now at its worst. But what struck Roosevelt was not the actual economic factors but the

mood of the public. It seemed to him that people were not only more fearful than

necessary but that their fears were making it harder to surmount adversity. In his

inaugural address to the country, he said that he would not ignore such obvious realities

as the collapse of the economy and that he would not preach a naive optimism. But he

implored his listeners to remember that the country had faced worse things in its past,

periods such as the Civil War. Fear creates its own self-fulfilling dynamic—as people give in to it, they lose energy and momentum. Their lack of confidence translates into inaction that lowers confidence levels even further, on and on. ―”So, first of all, ” he told the audience, ―”let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning,

unjustified terror, which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”

What Roosevelt sketched out in his speech is the knife’s edge that separates failure from

success in life. That edge is your attitude, which has the power to help shape your

reality. If you view everything through the lens of fear, then you tend to stay in retreat

mode. You can just as easily see a crisis or problem as a challenge, an opportunity to

prove your mettle, the chance to strengthen and toughen yourself, or a call to collective

action. By seeing it as a challenge, you will have converted this negative into a positive

purely by a mental process that will result in positive action as well. And in fact, through

his inspiring leadership, FDR was able to help the country shift its mind-set and

confront the Depression with a more enterprising spirit.

We face certain challenges as well. The world has become more competitive; the

economy has undeniable vulnerabilities and is in need of reinvention. As in all

situations, the determining factor will be our attitude, how we choose to look at this

reality. If we give in to the fear, we will give disproportionate attention to the negative

and manufacture the very adverse circumstances that we dread. If we go the opposite

direction, cultivating a fearless approach to life, attacking everything with boldness and

energy, then we will create a much different dynamic.

Understand: we are all too afraid—of offending people, of stirring up conflict, of

standing out from the crowd, of taking bold action. For thousands of years our

relationship to this emotion has evolved—from a primitive fear of nature, to generalized

anxiety about the future, to the fearful attitude that now dominates us.

THE NONENGAGEMENT STRATEGY

Let me put this posting on English because I love the words…

The problem we all face in strategy, and in life, is that
each of us is unique and has a unique personality.
Our circumstances are also unique; no situation ever
really repeats itself. But most often we are barely
aware of what makes us different--in other words, of
who we really are. Our ideas come from what we read,
teachers, all kinds of unseen influences. We respond
to events routinely and mechanically instead of trying
to understand their differences. In our dealings with
other people, too, we are easily infected by their
tempo and mood. All this creates a kind of fog. We
fail to see events for what they are; we do not know
ourselves.
Your task  is simple: to see the
differences between yourself and other people, to
understand yourself, your side, and the enemy as well
as you can, to get more perspective on events, to
know things for what they are. In the hubbub of daily
life, this is not easy--in fact, the power to do it can
come only from knowing when and how to retreat. If
you are always advancing, always attacking, always
responding to people emotionally, you have no time to
gain perspective. Your strategies will be weak and
mechanical, based on things that happened in the
past or to someone else. Like a monkey, you will
imitate instead of create. Retreating is something you
must do every now and then, to find yourself and
detach yourself from infecting influences. And the best
time to do this is in moments of difficulty and danger.
Symbolically the retreat is religious, or
mythological. It was only by escaping into the desert
that Moses and the Jews were able to solidify their
identity and reemerge as a social and political force.
Jesus spent his forty days in the wilderness, and
Mohammed, too, fled Mecca at a time of great peril
for a period of retreat. He and just a handful of his
most devoted supporters used this period to deepen
their bonds, to understand who they were and what
they stood for, to let time work its good. Then this little
band of believers reemerged to conquer Mecca and
the Arabian Peninsula and later, after Mohammed's
death, to defeat the Byzantines and the Persian
empire, spreading Islam over vast territories. Around
the world every mythology has a hero who retreats,
even to Hades itself in the case of Odysseus, to find
himself.
If Moses had stayed and fought in Egypt, the Jews
would be a footnote in history. If Mohammed had
taken on his enemies in Mecca, he would have been
crushed and forgotten. When you fight someone more
powerful than you are, you lose more than your
possessions and position; you lose your ability to
think straight, to keep yourself separate and distinct.
You become infected with the emotions and violence
of the aggressor in ways you cannot imagine. Better
to flee and use the time your flight buys to turn inward.
Let the enemy take land and advance; you will recover
and turn the tables when the time comes. The
decision to retreat shows not weakness but strength.
It is the height of strategic wisdom.
The essence of retreat is the refusal to engage the
enemy in any way, whether psychologically or
physically. You may do this defensively, to protect
yourself, but it can also be a positive strategy: by
refusing to fight aggressive enemies, you can
effectively infuriate and unbalance them.
Most people respond to aggression by in some
way getting involved with it. It is almost impossible to
hold back. By disengaging completely and retreating,
you show great power and restraint. Your enemies
are desperate for you to react; retreat infuriates and
provokes them into further attack. So keep retreating,
exchanging space for time. Stay calm and balanced.
Let them take the land they want.
They will start to overextend themselves and make mistakes. Time is
on your side, for you are not wasting any of it in
useless battles.
War is notoriously full of surprises, of unforeseen
events that can slow down and ruin even the best-laid
plan. Carl von Clausewitz called this "friction." War is
a constant illustration of Murphy's Law: if anything can
go wrong, it will. But when you retreat, when you
exchange space for time, you are making Murphy's
Law work for you. War is a physical affair, which takes place
somewhere specific: generals depend on maps and
plan strategies to be realized in particular locations.
But time is just as important as space in strategic
thought, and knowing how to use time will make you a
superior strategist, giving an added dimension to your
attacks and defense. To do this you must stop
thinking of time as an abstraction: in reality, beginning
the minute you are born, time is all you have. It is your
only true commodity. People can take away your
possessions, but--short of murder--not even the most
powerful aggressors can take time away from you
unless you let them. Even in prison your time is your
own, if you use it for your own purposes. To waste
your time in battles not of your choosing is more than
just a mistake, it is stupidity of the highest order. Time
lost can never be regained.

Apa sih yang diinginkan wanita? -Sigmund Freud-

Halo agan-agan semua! Pada posting kali ini ane akan share pengalaman pribadi ane gan. Dari judulnya agan pasti udah tahu apa yan akan ane bahas kali ini. Ya, bener cewek. Pernah suatu kali ane ngeliat cewek diboncengi ama cowok.Motornya ya cuma motor butut. pas itu ane lagi nambalin ban bocor ane. Ceweknya sih lumayan, cakep tapi cowoknya gan,,hhhmmmmm.... acakadut. Bukan bermaksud menghina tuh cowok tapi bener deh..., hmmm dari pandangan pertama aja udah bikin eneg. Dari warna kulitnya item dekil, matanya sayu kayak abis begadang semalem, bagian bawah matanya item kayak abis ditonjok preman sekampong, selera berpakainnya pokoknya nga banget, pokoknya tuh cowok parah banget lah.Tapi tuh cewek lain gan kulitnya putih kayaknya chinese gitu gan, tampangnya lumayan,pokoknya laen.Walapun begitu ane lihat tuh cewek rasanya kayak ngrayu tuh cowok. Tapi cowoknya cuek aja. Tapi denger-denger tuh cowok udah mau merit ama tu cewek. Dalam hati ane bergumam gan 'Mau-maunya tuh cewek ama tuh cowok?' Ini jadi bikin ane penasaran gan. Apa yang bikin tuh cewek bisa kecantol ama tuh cowok. Apa tuh cewek kena glukoma? apa tuh cewek dipelet ama tuh cowok? Jadi ane selidikin lagi lebih lanjut gan.

Menurut hasil penyelidikan ane tuh cowok adalah keponakan dari sang tukang tambal ban tempat ane nambalin ban.Bukan anak dari orang kaya. Jadi, kesimpulannya ane tambah bingung gan. Udah muka pas-pasan, kantongnya juga tipis, kayaknya juga suka minum khamer, suka nongkrong bareng preman tapi kok tu cewek mau ya?

Tapi kebalikkannya gan ane pernah liat temen ane. Ngejar-ngejar cewek ampe setengah modar. Udah rela jadi supir pribadinya, jadi kacung pribadinya, pokoknya rela berkorban jiwa dan raga deh gan. Tapi hasilnya.... tuh cowok ditolak terus ama tuh cewek. Padahal dari tampangnya sih cukup lumayan ,juga bukan termasuk golongan kaum dhuafa, fakir, miskin dan sekitarnya.

Jadi ane bertanya dalam hati gan "Apa sih yang diingikan wanita?"  Secara logika kalo  udah diberi pengorbanan yang sebesar besarnya kayak tuh temen ane seharusnya kan lama-lama juga kecantol.Tolong bagi agan tau silahkan berikan komentar.

Hindari Galau!

Perasaan galau sering melanda kehidupan manusia. Perasaan seperti ini didefinisikan orang dengan berbagai tipe. Ada yang bilang galau itu perasaan tertekan, galau itu gak ada uang dan gak’ bisa makan, galau itu lagunya Titi DJ (LOH….), galau itu pas’ diputusin pacar, galau itu pas ujian gak’ belajar dan gak tau mau nyontek ma siapa, galau itu cabang baru dari perasaan seperi sedih, marah, putus asa, cengeng, dan lainnya, dan pastinya masih banyak lagi definisi galau yang diprediksi oleh setiap individu. Bahkan ada yang lebih sadis, galau itu (katanya) bisa membunuh karakter pribadi sebab ia membuat seseorang tidak dapat berbuat apa-apa lagi dikarenakan tidak dapat berfikir jernih.
Galau merupakan suatu perasaan dimana seseorang memikirkan hal-hal secara berlebihan, kemudian bingung ketika memikirkan apa yang harus dilakukan terhadap hal tersebut dengan pikirannya sendiri, sehingga emosi menjadi tidak stabil, pikiran pusing, lalu mendadak imsomnia. Galau juga perasaan emosi labil seseorang saat ia tidak dapat menentukan pilihan, takut akan yang terjadi nanti, apakah sesuai harapan atau tidak, benar atau salah ya…???, bimbang, dan gak’ percaya diri dengan apa yang sudah dipilih untuk menjadi sebuah pilihan dan keputusan akhir yang diambil.
Penyakit ini rentan hinggap pada usia- usia muda, remaja, belia, dan bahkan yang sudah dewasa pun terkadang juga ikut merasakan sengatan galau ini. Nah, jika sudah terinfeksi, jangan dibiarkan berlama-lama mengendap dalam diri. Berikut beberapa tips yang dapat menangkis rasa galau yang disebabkan oleh banyak faktor yang gak mungkin disebut satu per satu. Semoga bermanfaat ya

1. Berhentilah untuk menyalahkan diri sendiri karena hanya akan membuat perasaan jadi semakin down. Berpikirlah kalau ini merupakan sebuah ujian dari Tuhan karena Tuhan sayang sama diri kita dan Tuhan mau menaikkan derajat kita di hadapan orang lain dengan ujian tersebut. Dengan begitu kita akan lebih percaya diri setelah ujian itu berhasil dilewati, karena ujian yang diberikanNya tidaklah diluar kemampuan hambaNya.
2. Hadapi dengan senyuman, berpikir positif, dan tenang dalam menyelesaikannya. Dengan begitu, perasaan akan lebh terasa relax dan sadar bahwa masalah yang dihadapi gak’ seberat yang dibayangkan.
3. Selalu aja merasa beruntung, agar bisa terus bersyukur atas semua nikmat dari Tuhan.
4. Lakukan kegiatan positif dan berguna, lalu nikmatilah semua itu.
5. Dengarkan lagu-lagu yang disukai
6. Kumpul bersama teman-teman, kerabat, keluarga, lalu sharing dan curhat ke mereka. Tetapi jangan sampai salah pilih orang, karena bisa makin’ runyam ntar masalahnya. Bukannya nyelesain’ tapi malah nambah, capek deh…
7. Hadapi yang akan terjadi, bukan malah menghindari dan takut. Jangan pernah berpikir untuk lari dari masalah. Masalah yang ada bukan untuk dihindari, tetapi untuk diselesaikan. Semakin dihindari, maka ia akan makin membesar. Menghadapi tidak selalu berdampak negatif, malah kebanyakannya berdampak positif. Justru menghindar akan makin membuat pribadi kalah dan merusak diri dari segi mental.
8. Perbanyak beribadah. Meminta pertolongan dan petunjuk kepadaNya, dan temukan kedamaian ketika telah melakukan ibadah dan meminta solusi langsung kepada Sang Maha Esa.

Semoga tips diatas bisa membantu melepaskan perasaan galau. Jangan tambah galau ya kawan-kawan, nikmati dan hiduplah bebas, tanpa beban, dan merdeka


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Cara menyembunyikan file tanpa meninggalkan jejak (Metode Recovery/eject Harddisk)

Keunggulan dari metode ini adlah anda dapat menyembunyikan file tanpa terlacak oleh software apapun dan siapapun, Hanya Anda,Tuhan, dan komputer anda saja yang tahu. Berikut langkah-langkahnya:(baca sampai selesai)

1. Download dan install Easeus Partition Master (cari di google)
2. Buka Easeus.
3. Resize Partisi (C:,D:,dll) yang sudah ada dengan cara klik kanan pada partisi      yang     diinginkan . Atur ukuran partisi yang baru dengan memasukan jumlah         memori (misal 10000 MB)  atau sesuai kebutuhan.
4. Lalu akan muncul 1 partisi baru bernama 'Unallocated'. Setelah itu klik kanan          pada unallocated pilih 'create'.
5. Pada form yang muncul anda bisa mengatur Nama, File system, ukuran cluster,     serta alamatnya, anda bisa merubahnya. Tapi untuk File System jangan diubah     menjadi EXT2 maupun EXT3.
 6.Klik OK.
 7.Setelah semua selesai jangan buru-buru menutup aplikasinya. Klik tombol Apply di sebelah kiri bawah  monitor anda. Lalu klik Yes.
 8. Tunggu beberapa saat.(Tergantung ukuran partisi serta kecepatan komputer)
 9. Maka akan muncul partisi kosong yang baru.( Buka File explorer anda)
 10. Pindahkan/masukkan semua data yang ingin anda sembunyikan kedalam partisi kosong/baru tersebut. Bila telah selesai memasukkan data maka buka kembali Easeus.
11. Apakah anda masih membaca? Kalau masih lanjutkan ke langkah 12 untuk menyembunyikan data anda tersebut
12. Delete partisi tersebut dengan Easeus. Ya, benar delete saja dengan cara klik kanan pada partisi yang baru lalu delete.
13.Maka partisi yang berisi data rahasia anda akan lenyap dari File Explorer tanpa meninggalkan jejak.
14. Untuk mengembalikan/menambahkan data-data ke dalam partisi tersebut lagi-lagi anda akan membutuhkan Easeus. Buka Easeus setelah terbuka perhatikan kesebelah kiri atas monitor anda. Pada kotak Wizards pilih "Partition Recovery Wizard".
15. Klik next pada kotak dialog yang muncul lalu pilih Manual pada kotak selanjutnya lalu Pilih next pada kotak selanjutnya lalu klik fast maka partisi yang tadi anda hapus akan muncul. Centang pada partisi tersebut. Tunggu sampai 'loading'nya selesai lalu klik Proceed.
16. Tunggu beberapa saat. Setelah selesai anda dapat membuka file explorer lagi lalu lihat data anda kembali lagi. Untuk menyembunyikan lagi anda bisa mengulang dari langkah No.12.
Lho kalau semua orang tahu metode ini maka mereka dapat mengetahui dan merecover data rahasia saya! Tenang untuk menghindari orang lain membuka data rahasia anda maka anda bisa memasang password pada Easeus dengan cara klik menu general pada menubar di sebelah pojok kiri atas monitor anda. Pilih set password. Atur password Easeus. Maka Aplikasi ini akan meminta password untuk melakukan akses kedalamnya.
WARNING: Secara umum metode ini sangat aman apabila anda mengikuti langkah-langkah diatas. Saya tidak bertanggung jawab atas kerusakan yang terjadi pada komputer anda.